Blended families are not as unusual as they used to be. However, the financial and legal challenges of combining two families haven’t changed. If your future includes a combined family with stepchildren and stepparenting, the recent article from Kiplinger, “How to Navigate Finances as a Blended Family,” has useful information to consider.
Prenuptial Agreement. A prenup is used to clarify expectations regarding assets and debts. How assets are to be divided between children from past marriages or any future grandchildren can be addressed in a prenup and your will. If you come to the marriage already owning a home or a business, a prenup should be used to clarify your future spouse’s ownership interest. If your spouse-to-be has debts, a prenup covers how premarital debt will be handled.
Shared Expenses. Hoping financial matters will work out themselves is not a plan for a blended family. Will you set up joint checking accounts? Who will be responsible for biological or adopted children’s expenses from prior marriages? What expenses will be split? Single parents of college-age children need to know that if they marry, both spouses’ incomes are used on applications for financial aid.
Estate Planning Updates. Everything related to estate planning, from your will, trusts, insurance policies and health care directives, must be updated when you marry again.
Your will must be updated to reflect your wishes for assets to go to children from a prior marriage and your spouse. It’s easy for children to be disinherited in a blended family, requiring special attention. If there is no will, the state’s laws will be applied. This may not be what you wanted.
Beneficiary designations need to be updated. The person named as a beneficiary on accounts like IRAs, SEPs, pensions and life insurance policies receives assets directly, regardless of what the will may state.
You may want to establish a Revocable Trust to take assets from your “probate estate” and provide for children. Your new spouse may be the trustee, or you may choose an adult sibling to administer the trust. You may want to update the trustee or beneficiaries if you have trusts.
Medical directives must be updated so your new spouse can be involved in your healthcare. Privacy laws are strict, and a new spouse might be shut out from making healthcare decisions without new documents. These include a Health Care Proxy, also known as a Medical Power of Attorney, HIPAA Release Forms and Living Will. Your estate planning attorney will know what documents are used in your state.
Estate planning is not as romantic as planning a wedding. It is still a sure signal to your intended and your family to prepare for a future based on responsibility and caring.
Reference: Kiplinger (Oct. 18, 2024) “How to Navigate Finances as a Blended Family”